Have you ever heard the phrase “what you focus on expands”? When I started to really do a lot of work on myself, this was something that came up a lot. Lately, I’ve been thinking about this pretty consistently. I have some clients that are doing all the right things to lose weight and yet it just isn’t coming off.
If they were working with a dietician they might look to see if the ratio of carbohydrates to fat to protein was correct (and I’m not saying that substituting fast burning carbohydrates for slow burning ones isn’t a technique that I might employ) however, with a Certified Health Coach, we look at things in another way.
See, it’s not just about what you eat, it’s about how you FEEL. You could be eating all the right things and not seeing the results that you expect, because all you’re focusing on is how you HAVEN’T been able to lose the weight and how frustrated you are.
Think about this – what would it mean if you lost the weight? I had a client a few years ago that was losing weight at an amazing pace and then just stalled. When I asked her what she thought might be going on, she said “I’m almost at the weight that I was at the last time I was in a relationship”. Talking about it a little more we discovered that she just wasn’t sure if she was ready to handle the extra attention from men that she was getting as she was slimming down. She was afraid of getting hurt.
Many of us hang on to baggage for many reasons, this might not be yours. But, what is? Sometimes the extra weight functions as a barrier from others in the world. Who hurt you? What are you scared of? What are you protecting yourself from? On the other hand – why are you comfortable at this weight? How is being uncomfortable serving you? Do you feel deserving of living the life you are imagining for yourself?
Think about it.
Cheers to your good health!
Emotional eating – it’s the biggest obstacle that most people face trying to get healthy whether they want to lose weight, have more energy or simply feel better in their day to day lives. When I look at the diets of my clients so often I hear comments like “I can’t give up my dessert”, “I deserved that ice cream”, ” I had a tough day so, I’m allowed this beer after work”, “I’m not giving up my wine”. But, what are you really giving up?
All of the substances I mentioned break down into sugar eventually, so have you ever really paid attention to what these substances do in your body? For most of us when we think of sugar, we think of how wonderful it will taste. We think of that chocolate cake and how delicious it will be when we first bite into it. We think of how it will feel in our mouths. But what about what is really going on in your body?
So often we look at cravings as a sign of weakness. We think to ourselves: “What’s wrong with me that I need candy(or substitute your “go-to” food here) to get through the day?” But, that’s not what cravings are at all. Cravings are a sign from your body that you need something. I know for me sugar cravings (yes, I do get them) happen when I’m tired, or if I’m upset about something. You see, what you could really be craving is that instant burst of energy that most people get from sugar or you could be craving more “sweetness” in your life. It does not always have to be literal. Think out what people do when they’re upset about something…most girls have a night in with their good friends; Ben and Jerry. Couldn’t it be that the sweetness, let’s say from a relationship is gone and they’re looking for it in other places?
But, is that sugar really rewarding you? After you eat that pint, do you feel any better about your failed relationship? After eating dessert every night, work out for two hours the next day to burn off the calories you consumed and never getting anywhere with your weight loss goals, is that frustration you feel worth the cup or two that night that you eat to ease your frustration? And, for some of you, is the hangover that you feel all Saturday morning, worth the two hours of drinking the night before. Do you really deserve to wake up with a headache or a bulging waist line? NO!!!! Do you deserve the sugar CRASH that happens after that initial “high”? NO!
What you really deserve is true health. What you deserve is the waistline of your dreams. What you deserve is to look good in that little black dress and what you really deserve is to be happy, vibrant and full of energy to live out your dreams.
We all need a little reminding now and then. Love yourself to make the better choice for your body. Put yourself first, for once.